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Reputable and Dependable Ad Networks for Bloggers

Blogging is a serious business. Well, to me it is. Self-proclaimed online gurus advise the it does not matter if you do not get anything from blogging as long as you enjoy writing and sharing your thoughts. I resent that! If writing is all that you want, then might as well do it on a notebook or diary and then keep it inside the closet after you are done writing. No, that is not what I want!

What I want is for people to read what I jot down on my notebook. I want it to get published online for people to see, peruse, and commented upon -- and I do not care if they agree with my ideas. If they read through my piece and finished it until the last punctuation mark, then I got them where I wanted them to be. If they do not like what I wrote, it does not matter -- I sparked their interest and got them to read -- that is my ROI (return of investment).


Now, does that end there? Will you be satisfied by the awareness that people are reading your work? Of course not, I want them to be influenced by my insights. You might say, “How the heck can you influence people when you said you do not care if your readers do not agree with you? Surely, your readers should agree with your ideas if you want to shove you influence on them.”

Oh no, dear Reader! People do not need to agree with your insights for them to be influenced. If you sparked their interest, prompted an argument, or disturbed their conscience, you have sure made a mark on their minds.

Is Getting Readers Enough?

So you have gotten people reading your works and shoved your influence on their minds, what is next? Is that all there can be about blogging? Naye, there is one more -- and that is REVENUE.

Many professional bloggers will recommend affiliate marketing as the best way to earn money from blogging. Affiliate marketing is when you link some texts or images of your content to products sold online. You encourage your readers to click those links so they can eventually buy the items. You get commissions from the purchases made by your readers. Yet, the thing about affiliate marketing is that you have to orient your articles so as to make you readers buy the product (or service), like a product review of some sort (for example).

What if your forte is writing your ideas and insights for all the people to see (as I elaborated previously)? What if you write stories or current events? Is affiliate marketing going to work well with those types of write-ups? You can try your luck. I am not going to discourage you.

For those types of articles, I recommend using CPM and CPC ads. CPM means cost per impressions -- you get revenue for every ad seen by your readers. CPC means cost per click -- you earn when your readers click the ads. Of course, you need to have lots of continuous traffic to your website in order to gain a substantial and sustainable amount of earnings.

Yet, be warned! Not all ad networks offering CPM and CPC are reputable. Many of them can ruin your readers’ user-experience. Some can even prompt Google to deindex you from its search results. These unruly ad networks have malicious mobile redirects and annoying website pop-ups that lead to webpages of certain products and sometimes to sites with dubious morals.

In the service of SDR’s readers who want to dip their toes into blogging and are interested in making some money, I have listed down 5 ad networks which I find to be reputable and dependable.

Media.Net (Yahoo-Bing Network)

Given that it has the combined expertise of Yahoo and Bing, both reputable names in the Internet industry, surely you need not question Media.Net’s authenticity. Depending on the quality and highness of your site’s traffic, it is one of the best ad serving networks when it comes to revenue and ROI.


Beginning bloggers may not be familiar with the name Chitika, but it has been in the ad serving industry for many years. It has access to top tier advertising partners such as Yahoo, Homeadvisor, and Supermedia. Professional bloggers (and that include yours truly) can attest to the reputability of Chitika. You can be sure that no pop-ups and redirects will annoy your readers when they visit your website.

Viglink is quite different from the other CPC platforms because it is known more for its text link ads. It gives you a code to be placed at the footer of your webpages so it can make ad links out of relevant texts. This text links function as ads to various products and online shops. Your readers will need to click those links in order for you to earn, plus if they buy the product, you can receive a commission from the purchase.

Amazon eCPM

Amazon is more popular with its affiliate marketing. Lately however, they have added eCPM as one of their offerings to online publishers. So for those who do not find themselves doing affiliate affiliate marketing, Amazon gives you its eCPM banner ads. Yet, even if you are an affiliate marketer, you can still opt to apply Amazon eCPM on your website.

Google Adsense

Last but not the least is Google Adsense. What makes it reputable is that it is owned by Google itself. And because it is Google, it is also the most popular among the ad networks out there. The thing about Adsense, though, is that you have to generate some high amount of regular traffic before your site gets approved to display its ads. Aside from that, they have a team that will review your content to check if it is legitimate and original, not spammy or duplicate of other sites.

Yet, if you have Adsense in your website, it just goes to prove that your site is indeed legitimate -- given the strict protocols of their approval process.

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On Goals, Failure, and Choices

People prepare for a number of things. In youth, you prepare yourself for adult life. So you go to school and study well with the hope that, by getting a diploma, you can get a good job and see yourself in a thriving career. When you get older, however, such things will be superseded by more aggravated concerns.

Graduating from school is in itself an achievement, but eventually you need to move on from savoring the moment and get a job. At this stage of life, it feels like everything you have dreamed of is finally coming through. The thing is, reality dictates that you have to compete with other job seekers - some of them may even be more aggressive than you are. You will realize that finishing school and graduating with flying colors are not the real peak of your goal seeking. You cannot be complacent because they are just the icing on the cake - the tip of an enormous iceberg.

Because of the stiff competition among fresh graduates and old timers, some job seekers may have to settle applying for a job not even related to what they took in college or are not really their expertise. The need to earn money for a living - so you can pay the bills and rent - is manifesting itself to be more important than fulfilling your passion. Getting your dream job and establishing yourself in a career you want will have to be put in the back-burner for awhile. The thing is, your soul will be burdened with restlessness and ill-content until your heart finds its dwelling. If it takes too long, you become unsettled and, eventually, unhappy.

Some Goals Are Futile

What you thought would give you happiness, when you were still striving for your goal, was in fact futile now that you have achieved it. You now realize dreams can become void when they have finally been fulfilled. Yet, the struggle does not end there; you have forgotten that they were your dreams in the first place.

A Filipino capitalist and diplomat said that the secret to his success was he never rested on his laurels. Once a goal has been achieved, he would move on to another one and begin another quest. There is truth to what he said, not because it is a wise advice, but because it sums up prettily the reality of your life’s journey.

All kinds of happiness that you experience on this Earth are all but permanent. They are always fleeting albeit in varying durations; some lingering while others span a short time, yet all of them are temporary. Examples of lingering happiness are being in the company of loved ones, being cared for by family and friends, and caring for them in return.

Yet, even if you are experiencing such lingering happiness, the minute details of life may distract you and superimpose themselves on your face, thereby blinding you and reorienting your focus to something of less importance. You once again feel unhappy because you allowed yourself to be engrossed on things that may not really matter to your life.

Which Is More Important, Journey or Goal?

Some people say that the journey itself is more important than the goal. I say both are equally important; you should enjoy the journey and you should also savor the moment when you have finally reached your goal. But what if you failed in achieving your goal? Does that mean you have not gained anything? Of course not, failure in itself has its own benefits. It teaches you lessons of what went wrong, it makes you embrace humility and see the reality of your humanity.

“Speak for yourself, Kiddos! Who the heck wants to fail?” You react. The thing is, wise men and sages of all ages preach that failure is the one thing that makes our greatest human values manifest. Humility, hope, prudence, determination, and even magnanimity all come out because of failure. The greatest feats, discoveries, and inventions of mankind were all wrought because of failure.

Failure provides the discipline to aspire for better and more important things. Ironically, it is also the cause of discouragement to not a few people. I guess it all depends on people’s choices.


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Reasons Why Your Boss May Eventually Dislike You

Normally, your direct manager or supervisor should not dislike you. In the first place, he/she is the one who recruited you and got you onboard. Practically, he/she is also the one in charge to ensure your growth and development in the workplace. So why in the world would your boss eventually dislike you then?

What if your boss was not the one who hired you and did not go through the process of screening you until you pass the recruitment, like if he/she got promoted from a lower position or if he/she got hired directly as a manager or supervisor and was appointed to lead you and your teammates? There are circumstances when a team leader never get the chance to choose his/her team members by interviewing new recruits.

In any case, whether he/she is your lead person from the the start of your stint in the company or he/she just came in as a newbie, there is still the possibility that he/she may dislike you eventually. Of course, the ideal is to maintain a good and smooth working relationship with your boss. The thing is, certain personality traits may get in the way of such relationship. Sometimes, even if you have done so much to avoid friction, how the other party reacts and responds to your attempts may already be outside of your circle of control and influence.


1. You appear to be more competent than your boss

In most cases, competency can be measured. When it is measured, it becomes an objective trait. Sadly, there are some people who think that they are objective in assessing competency when, in fact, they are very subjective about it. Sometimes, being competent is confused for being likable.

Depending on how secure the person is, ego can be a sensitive nerve that tingles inside when it is touched even just a little. When you appear to be better in skill and knowledge than your boss, yet he/she regards the people under his/her supervision as inferior, then you are in for a treat - a bad treat that is.

2. You are well-loved by the boss of your boss

You do not have to be competent to be lovable. In fact, “competent” people can and may act like a-holes. What if your being lovable does not limit itself to your inner circle? What if such lovability reaches the higher echelons of management?

Well, then you become a threat to your direct managing officer. His/Her fear may not be substantiated by succinct evidence, but the mere perception of you being favored by upper management may hurt your boss’ pride. He/She surely does not want to be swiped out of his/her commanding position.

3. Your salary is higher than that of your boss

There is a reason why most (if not all) companies have a policy of keeping salaries strictly confidential. It keeps jealousy and envy out of the system. Mind you, such emotions are very demotivating to an employee.

Many people think that, if you are a boss, your salary is supposed to be way higher than your subordinates. The thing is, that does not always happen. There are some instances wherein the subordinate has a higher salary grade than that of his superior. There are variety of conditions why such is the case, but I tell you, it happens.

Ideally, this should not be a problem since salaries are a confidential matter. It will become a dilemma only if you tear up its concealment. So be careful not to be boastful about your emolument.

4. Your personal and professional values contradict

When family members are not in the same wavelength and there is no room for compromise, they open themselves to much bickering and unruly conflicts - they become a haven of intolerance. If it happens within families, surely it occurs in the workplace. Reality will be pounded by difficulty if this is how you describe your relationship with your boss.

We all know that morals are important; they guide our decisions and actions. They become even more significant when they define your relationships with people. It can either knit your minds together or convert your supposed allies into hostile frienemies.


The best way to avoid a toxic work relationship with your boss is to remain humble. Always allow your boss to shine because, when he/she does, then you too will have to spark the light.

If your daily bread that is supposed to energize your passion at work has become rotten and poisonous, then you may need to leave it behind already and move on. There is a popular proverb that says…

"If you cannot take the heat, then get out of the kitchen."

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Superficial Goals that Distract You from Worthwhile Ones

I believe happiness is both conditional and decisional. Yet, basing your happiness solely on conditions and circumstances can be a sign that you have no control over yourself and that you are not the master of your own fate. You should decide to be happy, because that is the ideal. The thing is, due to human limitations and our naturally ingrained needs, our senses and emotions become dependent on conditions and situations. The mark of a really strong character is when a person decides to go above feelings and choose to count his/her blessings. This is difficult to do if your current state of affairs do not facilitate contentment and gratification.

Sickness, rejection, and failure bring pain and sadness to people. The latter two are likely because of some goals that were not achieved. The duration of painful experiences need not be lengthy, but it all depends on you. Yet still, the best cure for pain (due to failure and rejection) is for you to move on and learn from the mistakes - no more, no less.

Sometimes, our goals and ideals get mired by lofty desires. Instead of fulfilling your real passion in life, you become distracted by superfluous longings to be praised by people, be unbeatable, or gratify a lingering anger.

1. Desiring the approval of people

If you are a student, it is but normal to satisfy the conditions required by your school. If you are an employee, you would do the same for your company. As a student, your goal is to pass your subjects; you need the nod of your teachers for you to do so. As an employee, your objective is to earn a living and to not get fired; so you need to deliver results that will meet the management’s expectations. Such goals are good, as those people have some kind of moral ascendancy over you (or are expected to be so).

However, when you desire the praise of other people even if they have no connection whatsoever with you, then you are surely opening your doors to many episodes of disappointment. People will not always find you pleasing; your efforts may not be enough for them to solicit their clapping and cheering.

When your happiness depends so much on winning the approval of people, then rejection is something you will not tolerate. This spells trouble for you and to those you come in contact with.

2. Wanting to get ahead of others

The best advice about being competitive is that you should compete with yourself and no one else. If your goal is to be better that everyone, and you want people to acknowledge that you are the best - trying so hard to get noticed by ensuring the defeat of the person next to you, then you may be becoming like a very loud gong overpowering all the sounds around it but annoying all those who hear it.

You may say that you just want to track your personal improvement, and you do not have anything to measure it with unless you contrast yourself with others. This method may somehow be effective as it pushes you to reach higher lengths. However, since your standard of achievement is getting ahead of other people by toe to toe competition, then you are setting your life to a never-ending encounter with dissatisfaction and frustration. The only occasion when this method is justifiable is if you are playing sports.

You can, in fact, track your personal growth without the head to head collision and hurtful competition with another person. That is by doing better today than what you did yesterday, and strive to do even better tomorrow than what you are doing today. It is about competing with yourself, remember? Of course, do not forget to live in the present moment.

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3. Seeking revenge on those you have a grudge with

We now go to the third superfluous goal. Setting your focus and effort so you can get back at someone you are angry with can indeed be a source of motivation. Not a few people were able to achieve their objectives and make something of themselves just because they are angry. They want to show the world how righteous they are because they perceive their fellowman as just nefarious. Self-righteousness is what we call this trait.

There is nothing crooked if you want to prove yourself right or to point out errors of some fellows when they are wrong (if indeed they are wrong). However, if your real goal is to inflict pain and cause humiliation, then this is nothing but vindictiveness - and no, it is not justice.

Quenching your thirst for revenge will almost always end up in hurting someone. Unfortunately, this can include yourself.

Chastising Your Goals

If this article sounds like it aims to ruin your dreams, I suggest you read it again from the top. Come to think of it, this is really about the purity of your intentions.

You attempt to achieve your aspiration and accomplish a goal. Will it bring about goodness to the people around you? How about the methods through which you are to do it; do they involve stepping on people’s reputations?

Think about it.

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Who Reads Blog Posts These Days?

Ten years ago, I read an article in Panorama Magazine. It explained how both amateur and veteran writers were beginning to make money on their own, without the intervention of publishers. Yet, they were not doing it through independent publishing of printed materials - it was something new (at that time) and perfectly legal.

The Internet became an avenue where essayists, storytellers, and even shallow naysayers were able to pick some pieces of gold and silver. The terms online advertisement and affiliate marketing came into existence. These were the new means through which writers could extract some bucks from the Internet. Later on, established publishers and big publishing companies would come into the picture and claim their piece of the pie.


I have no intention of discussing how to make money by blogging or writing stuff on the Net; there are quite a number of articles online about it already. By the way, if up until now you still do not know how the word “blog” came to be, then I may have to give you a bit of a service. Blog is actually an acronym of 2 words - web log. In quite a short time, the online community got tired of saying and typing “web log,” so they coined them into one. So now, we have the word blog.

The Blogging Boom

The years 2004-2009 were the time bloggers got their heyday. Those were the years when struggling writers become instant publishers, and ordinary enthusiasts - who were passionate about some certain lifestyles or hobbies - evolved into professional writers. The latter could also be called as chroniclers. Yes, they were chroniclers of different matters - politics, celebrities, current events, gossips, gadgets, gizmos, and anything under the sun.

Yet, most (if not all) of them were not even journalists by profession. The only background they had on writing was their ordeal during their schooling days. The thing was that their online works were being read by countless people hungry for news, trivia, and entertainment. The more people reading their stuff, the more money they got from the advertisers.

Of course, these things can (and are) still happening today. Blogging is (still) an excellent opportunity for writers and enthusiasts, who can write well, to showcase their craft and earn some bucks. The thing is, there is this feeling among online marketers that bloggers who got the first course of the meal have already eaten the entire course, and those who came in late would have to be content with morsels.

‘The More The Merrier’ Has Become a Challenge

Consumers tend to patronize goods and services which have established brand names attached to them. The behaviour is pretty much the same when people surf the Net; they will often go to websites and blogs they are familiar with, believing that these would provide them better information and/or entertainment than those sites and blogs that they have not come across with.

Even Google, Bing and other search engines work using a somewhat similar principle. Their algorithm will index webpages in a way that favors the more popular ones over those with less (to no) popularity.

Getting Readers from an Audience of Watchers

So who reads blogs nowadays, particularly the ones owned by “uncelebrated” essayists and storytellers? Well, in fairness to the online community, there are quite a number of people who love reading articles on a decent blog site like this one. The fact you are here just proves you belong to this splendid group of Internet surfers.

Thanks to social media, you will not put a good content down the bin. I am not talking about the likers and followers (because they too are influenced by popularity), I am pertaining to the shares, which can make a post viral around the web. Virality results to more pageviews and an increasing number of readership.

Here is the thing, the competition does not limit itself with a blog vs. other blogs. Blog writers and publishers also have to compete with another type of content, one that is more dynamic and requires less reading (or maybe no reading at all) - and this is the online video.

Statistics show that people who surf the Web prefer watching videos than reading articles. For a writer whose talent lies more in putting his/her insights and creative narratives into written from, this is very much of a challenge.

How do you make people read your article if they have an inkling to watch and share videos rather than strain their eyeballs poring over your write-up? I do not have a clear answer to such question. Whatever product you produce as a writer - be it a novel, short story, essay, or poem (Geesh! Who is interested in poetry these days?) - the greatest gratification you can get is the knowledge that people are reading your works. The wider the audience who read them, the better the influence you gain.

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The Power of The Notebook

If your first thought is that this article would be a review of a certain movie and novel with a similar title, then you are dead wrong. As of the moment I am penning this down, I have not watched the film nor read the book. Whether that movie (and novel) is about the literal notebook, I would not know. So what the heck are you reading about then, and what kind of power the notebook has that I want to discuss with you?

Well, it is all about the advantage of using the simple notebook as against the computer and/or tablet when writing an article for a blog (such as this one). “Baloney!” You may retort. “How the heck can you say you are blogging if you are doing it on a notebook? Blogs are on the Internet; therefore, you need to use a computer or something similar to create content.”


You are right, blogs cannot be published without a computer. Take note, however, I say the word “publish.” You will only need your computer if you are ready to publish your draft. When you are writing your draft, though, no - you do not need it yet.

I admit, it is quite tedious to write the initial draft on a notebook, and then manually transfer the text into the website’s CMS (or content management system). You will not have the pleasure of using the "copy-and-paste" feature on this instance. Given such effort, still I find the advantages outweighing the tediousness.

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When you write on the notebook, your mindset is to write and nothing else

For a blogger or writer who is in the act of writing, there is always this temptation to edit while you write. This is practically true if you are using your computer's word processor, given its propensity to alert its user when a wrong spelling or incorrect word usage is on the page. Of course, you can turn this feature off if you know how to. 😊

The thing is, when you are doing your first draft, your objective is to write your thoughts down - not edit. Writing and editing at the same time is one significant reason why many writers grind their teeth in frustration. Because of this, they are not able to finish their work properly. Proofreading and editing will have their time, and such time is after you have completed your work prior to hitting the publish button.

Since the notebook does not have the ease of having the quick editing functions and error alerts of a word processing software, the writer is forced to concentrate mainly on translating his/her thoughts into texts and scribbling them down on paper.

The tediousness of copying from notebook to computer can be an editing leverage

Writing is never for the lazy, much so if you are a blogger. To a witty writer, a stodgy effort can be used as something worthwhile.

When you are jotting down your thoughts on your first draft, your main goal is to write - and just write (as we have talked about earlier). However, that goal changes once you have drawn your last punctuation mark. Before you become eager to publish your work for all the world to see, you need to edit your piece. Your objective shifts from mere writing to making your work flawless.

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Surely, you cannot publish your composition if it is still in your notebook. In this case, you will now need the computer. The effort may sound annoyingly burdensome, but the task of copying your draft into the word processing application (or if you want, directly into your website’s CMS) will allow you to see errors and notice words and phrases that may need improvement. More often than not, reading your draft and typing the texts on your keyboard sentence by sentence may trigger your jocose mind to come up with other ways to convey your message - thereby giving you some ideas to better reconstruct your sentences and paragraphs.

So yes, writing on a notebook and then typing it on your computer afterwards can provide you a better allowance to proofread, edit, and improve your work. In the end, it will all depend on you, on what resources you have at hand, and on what circumstances are there at that moment.

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You Are an Adult Yet You Think and Act Like a Teenager

Paul of Tarsus wrote to his audience in Corinth, “When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.1 Normalcy behooves us to grow up, not just physically, but more so with regards to our thinking and our emotions.

One peculiar attitude among humans with regards to growing up is that , in childhood they want to fast-track their growth; but once they reach their teens, they would rather stay in such period, so they become stuck with teenage mentality even if they are adults already.

Indeed, some of us stagnate and stop growing up mentally and emotionally. The thought of being a teenager again sounds so fantastic that some people would unwittingly wish it to be so by practicing behaviors only teenagers are known to be doing.

The level of our maturity depends on our unique experiences coupled with the people who had influenced us throughout our days here on Earth. The thing is - behaving like a teenager, even if you are way past such period, is likely a product of your choice.

1. You want to be understood but you do not even try to understand others

One common attitude among teens is that they think, feel, and act as if the world centers around them. Not “them” collectively, but individually… In other words, the teenage ME is the star of MY own movie and all the others are either supporting actors or the movie goers - so enjoy MY show whatever it is I am doing.

We all need the understanding of our fellow man (or woman). Given that statement, doesn’t it mean that it is not only you who need to be understood? Remember the golden rule, “Treat people the same way you want them to treat you,2 and take it to heart.

2. You have no control of your time

Which do you value more, money or time? Come to think of it - when money is spent, you can earn it again (maybe even more than what was spent); however, once time is lost, you cannot bring it back. Besides, time can be converted into money if you work on it properly.

So do you still spend your days like there is no tomorrow or like you are going to live forever? How fun it is to party all night and sleep all day. Maybe family time is a misnomer to you, and you justify not having one by insisting that quality time is better than the quantity of time. No, dear Reader, when it comes to family, more time with them is what quality time means.


You do not need to be a time traveler to control time. All you need to do is spend it on the right investment. If you take time for granted, then you let it control you.

3. Expressing yourself is of primary importance and being ignored is so hurtful to you

Being a teenager is the period of growing up when you mostly discover your talents. It is when most of your passions in life take root (some people are late bloomers, though, which is still good but I will tackle such topic later, on a separate venue).

Since you are beginning to see your talents bloom, it is quite but normal to express yourself by showing how good you are in a certain field. Again, this attitude is OK for teenagers as they see themselves as the center of universe (refer to list #1 above). Teenagers are often sensitive about this, and if you ignore them, they will likely take offense at it.

However, if you are already a grown up, and you have this knack to talk more about yourself and boast about your exploits, while getting sensitive if you are not noticed or you see someone who has greater feats than yours, then it may be a mark of some kind of insecurity. This attitude is something you need to get over with, as this will cause you to feel doleful inside which may eventually lead to annoyingly arrogant behaviors.

4. Strong emotions are your best gauge for making decisions

I remember a mentor of mine who said, “Do not make decisions when you are extremely sad, angry, or happy. You will likely regret it afterwards.” My own experience and my observations of other people confirm the veracity of such advice. Strong emotions can indeed cloud your judgement.

Younglings have a hard time following this wisdom. Well, they are kids and they have yet to learn it. Children will just react on what emotion they are feeling at the moment. That is the reason they have parents and/or guardians who need to guide them lest they in turn harm themselves.

So if you are a grownup, it is unlikely that you have another adult to watch you around. Well, of course friends and loved ones will be there to accompany you, but I doubt if you would like people watching over your shoulder and nagging you every time you do something.


Emotions are good; they are part of your human nature. They allow you to enjoy the company of people, avoid things that may hurt you, and savor life in general. The thing is, your emotions are not the master - you are.

Also, you are not the center of the universe. Yes, you are important - your uniqueness as a person makes it so - but try your best not to act like everyone should adapt to you. Each one of us are playing his/her part to make this world a better place to live in.

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[1] 1st Corinthians 13:11 (English Standard Version)

[2] Matthew 7:12 (New American Standard Bible)

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The ‘They Do Nots’ of Secure People

It is a sign of strength and security when people are at peace with themselves. Because they carry themselves lightly, they also bring this lightness to others whom they come in contact with – and this is a good thing. It is such a positive trait that almost all humans will never admit their insecurities. I find it ludicrous that even the most insecure people will deny that they are so, and they are too good at it that they themselves believe it to the point they become engrossed with self-admiration. Because of this, the real meaning of being secure has become a blur.

My wish is that you, dear Reader, do not blur the qualities of being secure. Flaws and insecurities are part of being human; what is bad is that you delve too much on them and you allow them to control how you see yourself and the world, which may eventually cause you more miserable insecurities.

So how do you know if people are secure with themselves or not?

1. They do not need to pretend

We all need to achieve something, and we call this something as our goal. Having goals are normal, in fact, they are ideal. However, when the goal transforms into pretension and faking yourself to someone you are not, then something inside you is making you insecure. It is an ill feeling that triggers you to show off and forget about who you really are. Or maybe you want to appear that you are better than everyone else, so you exaggerate a feat you did. You may feel a sense of adulation, as people may tend to believe you at first, but such gratification is fleeting and may even be dodgy because there is the danger of being exposed of your true self.

2. They do not get envious

Many times I have discussed about envy in some of the articles here in Scroll Down and Read. If you have been keeping a close touch with this online digest, you would certainly be accustomed to it. One particular article that specifically discusses about the deadly sin of envy is the Two Heads of the Green Eyed Monster.

Envy can be converted into inspiration and motivation, but if it takes hold of you and gives you an ill-feeling of discontent when you see the good fortune of your fellow man, then envy becomes a sinister parasite that eats up your mind. It can hurt both you and the people you come in contact with.

Envious people have a hard time being happy, which is the opposite for folks who are secure. Their only source of happiness is getting ahead of people – they love the appearance of being better than others both in fortune and in skill – even if it is just on the surface. The thing is, such type of happiness is momentary; they will immediately return to their hidden feeling of internal misery.

3. They do not get angry easily

Why would they? There are thick-skinned 😊. Seriously speaking, however, being onion-skinned is a mark that you are hiding something – and the more things you hide underneath, the more you become sensitive to any touch on your nerves. The best way to solve this: Embrace yourself – thickness or thinness, and all!

So yes, secure people do not get hurt easily. In turn, they do not get angry too much. Simply speaking, they are not sensitive. Oh, even if they do become sensitive, it is more so because somebody needs to be shown an act of kindness – not a smite of madness.

4. They do not talk too much

Because they do not feel the need to show off, pretend, or prove themselves, they find it unnecessary to talk especially when not spoken to. Having said that, do not think that you should be quiet all the time just to show to people that you are secure with yourself. If you are doing that, then you are trying to fake it – and that is certainly not a sign of security.

Talk when the moment behooves you to talk, but more so, lend your ears to those who need to be listened to. You may learn a thing or two. Do not listen so you can plan what you are going to say, but do so because you want to understand. As the late Stephen Covey would like to put it…


5. They do not dwell on the bad

Bad things happen to both good people and bad people, and good things come like so as well. Luck is random, but not your decisions and choices – they are the things that are under your control. That is why secure people are easy with themselves; they do not focus on the bad stuff.

If you want to feel secure, then rise up when you fall, learn from it, move on, and keep doing so at a pace that will not give you a heart attack (in other words, move with the right speed that allows you to enjoy your journey).

No need to look for a secure person, as you can be one yourself. All you need is a little practice. If that does not work, then you need to practice MORE until it becomes a HABIT - the habit of being secure.

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The 5th Habit according to Stephen Covey (7 Habits of Highly Effective People) meme created by author via Imgur
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Are You in Misery? Have Faith!

No one can escape being stung by the fangs of misery. Sadly, even the luckiest of men and women encounter it. However, the REAL lucky folks are not those who do not experience misery, they are the ones who rise up from setbacks, learn from their errors, and move on from their failures.

Yet, human nature is frail. Even the strongest people I have met succumb to weakness and give in to the formidable force of demotivation and depression. That is why I see it as a miracle when seemingly “hopeless” situations make a spectacular turnaround. I have seen them happen (and I bet you have too). The thing is, I often observe such occurrences to people who have Faith or to those people who had no faith (at all) but, in their quagmire of desperation, have turned to faith to fuel their remaining hope.

Since Scroll Down and Read has a mission to make its readers see annoying miseries transform into really inspiring stories, the publisher now adds a new category to this online digest. It is labeled as Have Faith.

My hope for you, dear Reader, whether you are a believer or non-believer, is that you find benefit from the stories and articles under this new category.


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