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You Should Avoid Facebook If You Have These Traits

Communication is so easy these days. Getting connected with friends from your long lost past is no more difficult than typing their names in the search field of a social networking site. News and stories are more shareable by a click of a finger than what comes out of your mouth. In all of these social connections online, one network stands out among the rest.

Facebook has gotten the widest share of the social audience all around the Web. This is not my personal assumption, but if you say otherwise, then I encourage you to Google it up and ask what is the most popular social networking site all over the world.

The thing about Facebook, or any other social network wherein “friendly” connections are supposed to reside, is that it has created a world existing on its own where people release their emotions which they normally will not do with their dealings in the real world.

Mobile Facebook User

In my observations on how people behave on Facebook (which include myself) plus my conversations both online and offline, I took the pleasure to note down top 5 traits that may not be advisable to have if you are an active Facebook user. No judgment intended here, and I suggest that you do not judge yourself and your Facebook friends either. Just be conscious of these attitudes when you are online lest you regret ever seeing that waterfall again.

1. You easily get envious

Do you measure your own life's achievements based on how you surpass others' way of living? Even how beautiful or handsome you are, you still feel you are not and are insecure about it because someone is wearing the latest fashion making her/him the talk of the community. You get disturbed when you see photos of a friend standing by his/her new car or boasting his/her exploitative travels, while ignoring the fact that you are blessed with a fine family and a stable source of livelihood.

If you are sad because you feel your friends are getting ahead of you, even if in reality you have the most out of life, then it would be best to avoid Facebook for a while until you have come to terms with your own better blessings.

2. Ostentation is something you adore

In relation to being envious, ostentatiousness is an intoxicating attitude particularly if it is coupled with vainglory and materialism. People who feel bad if they see their friends showing off their material exploits, thinking that it is a challenge for them to step up, are more likely the same people who will squeeze up their resources just so they can boast something greater that what their friends have.

If this behavior means depleting your salary just to buy those expenditures or to paint a mask of yourself that you are not broke, then you have turned Facebook into a battleground of superficial makeups and unrealistic lifestyles.

3. You are instantly affected by opinions contrary to yours

Social media sites, and that includes Facebook, are agents of democracy. Albeit there are human administrators and moderators who watch over the posts and threads of conversations going-on in the community, their default behavior is tolerance. Unless there is foul-mouthing, attacks against race and/or personalities, they will not meddle with the discussions.

Since Facebook is a democratic platform, it is common to see various political posts and religious threads, which are in fact the ingredients that democracy indeed exists in such a place. If you are a person who values democracy, then you should not get offended if there are news and stories going about in Facebook but are different to your own sentiments.

Do you feel that a meme merely saying, “God bless you,” is an indication that people are shoving their faith on you? Do you react by saying, “Keep your religion to yourself,” or something like that? If you do, then Facebook probably is not the social networking site for you. Or how about political news and social issues, do you rant like hell while foul-mouthing everyone who does not share the same views as you have? Disagreeing with someone is OK as long as you do not let bigotry overpower your reactions.

4. Fact and gossip look the same to you

Unlike television, print media, and radio where there are organized teams who proofread, verify, and edit the news story to be released to the public, social media has a very loose way of sharing stories and information. With proper grammar and vocabulary skills, anyone can write a story and concoct an issue. Once it is shared, quite a number of people may have a hard time distinguishing it from the real news that comes from a credible and verifiable source.

If you belong to these types of people, then you are in danger of making decisions based solely on rumors and hearsay. If you are an active Facebook user, it is advisable to test the veracity of the story you are reading in order for you to differentiate what is fact and what is fiction.

5. You get satisfaction by ruining people's reputations

I have been active in various social media channels for quite a while, and one I got use to seeing every now and then is the “basher.” So what the heck is a basher? Obviously, a basher is a person who is in the act of bashing, and bashing according to the Cambridge Dictionary is...

“...the act of hitting hard; a physical attack on someone; or a defaming criticism on a person.”

I will just simplify the meaning of bashing as “online bullying” since we are pertaining to a certain kind of behavior in social media. Anyways, I bet you get what I mean. Without resorting to a heated argument, you and I agree that defaming a person's reputation by bashing him/her is never a commendable online hobby.

Also, there is such a thing as slander, which is defaming a person through word of mouth and is discreetly done behind the person's back. Slandering when done in written form is called libel, and libel is not limited to print and broadcast media. If you are spreading stories in social media with the guise of maligning people's reputation, then you are no different from the murderous psychopath who can make a deadly weapon out of anything he/she holds – whether it is a sharpened pencil or a kitchen knife.


It said that a tool is just as good (or as evil) as its user. So how do you know if Facebook is good for you or not? Well, if upon browsing a few posts you feel a sense of misery instead of inspiration, then you probably need to log-off from social media for a while until you find a worthwhile hobby that can help you become a better person.

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Mobile Facebook User c/o terimakasih0 / Pixabay
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Why Eating a Hearty Breakfast is Difficult to Most People

Experts say that breakfast is the most important meal of the day, and that you should never skip it. Both nutritionists and dieticians recommend that you devour like a monarch in the morning, eat like a peasant at noontime, and munch like a beggar in the evening.

The thing is, to most people, consuming large amounts of food upon waking up in the morning is like a workload being forced upon their appetites. For them, it is more acceptable to just drink a cup of coffee, chocolate, or milk. At the most, if they do eat something solid, it would be something light and easy to swallow. Yet, even if they are the majority in the society, the few who see themselves as “breakfast people” condemn the former as slaves of an unhealthy eating habit. Even though the “non-breakfast” people are fit and healthy, their behavior is (still) abhorrent to self-righteous fitness buffs.


Whether you belong to either of those 2 factions who treat breakfast differently, judging people based on their breakfast habits is not going to help – you can admonish but not condemn. While eating a heavy breakfast is indeed commendable, it is still yet to be proven that people, who devour the morning meals like there is no tomorrow, live longer than those who do not.

Given the vast number of people who find it more appetizing to eat breakfast lightly, you may have to wonder why is that so. If experts say that a heavy breakfast is good for your body, why do you prefer to consume a light meal in the morning and eat more during the latter part of the day, and more so at the end of the day's work?

1. It is ingrained in our genes

Our primitive ancestors were hunters. Albeit some chose to be tillers of the soil and pickers of fruits, most humans (especially the males) were going out to the forests and wilderness to find their prey. Hunting was a whole day's work – it entailed traveling, trailing, tracking, flexible planning, and if they hunted as a team it also required coordination with the rest of the members. Once they succeeded in pounding their prey, they would return to their community to partake and savor the delicious meat at dinner time – not breakfast.

So you see, even our ancestors would just bring some light meals with them to munch during breaks between the course of their day's toil. The end of the day was the time when they would gather with their families to break bread, slice the meat, and enjoy the sharing and partaking of the food – the reward for their work and arduous hunting.

2. Rush is a ritual in the morning

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The only days when most people can eat a much prepared breakfast are weekends and holidays. These are the days when you can wake up with no worries, think about what to cook for your first meal of the day, and eat your hearty breakfast while taking the time to read the morning paper – no rush necessary.

In normal days, the scene is a different matter all together. Morning is the part of the day when almost everyone wants to be a speedster, like The Flash (or Quicksilver if you prefer Marvel over DC Comics). Your goal is to beat the time and finish all your usual morning rituals as quickly as possible, so you would not be late for work or school. An easy and quick munch is preferable if your aim is not to be defeated by the morning rush.

3. “End of day” fatigue makes us eat more

Just like our ancestors, our tired bodies desire a reward after the day's work. Fatigue heightens the sensation of hunger and thirst. So what do you do? You look for something edible to gorge upon. You will not stop until your craving is satisfied. The longer you wait the stronger your appetite becomes.

Food is much tastier and irresistible to a human being whose body was lambasted by a hard day's toil. You cannot deny that.

4. Social gatherings do not happen upon waking up

Are celebrations – like family reunions, alumni homecomings, and birthday parties – organized to commence early in the morning when people are waking up? Have you attended one like that, even once in your lifetime? If you have, oh please, tell us about it – write your story in the comment section below.

Dinner is the meal when most (if not all) social gatherings occur. If it is not dinner, the earliest they can happen is lunch at noontime. You do not organize a social event or party without preparing the food for your guests. In a way, you are encouraging them to eat (and drink) heartily when you invite them to your party.

Society itself, with its norms of how to be prim and proper and how to bring people together, promotes eating and enjoying food at the later part of the day. Surely, if you are one of the guests, it would be rude to shun away from consuming what is prepared for you at the table. You would not tell the host that you prefer to eat heartily during breakfast than doing so at dinner time.


Precious relationships such as those with family and close friends are often glued and strengthened during meals when food and stories are shared and partaken. To fitness buffs, however, the sad reality is that most of us engage in this bonding time during dinner – when all work is done and when loved ones come home to rest and savor the fellowship of family and friends while feasting at the table.

My wish is that we can do this too at breakfast – without the threat of the early morning rush and without disturbing those who are still asleep.

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Light and Quick Breakfast c/o Pexels

"The Flash" By Source (WP:NFCC#4), Fair use, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?curid=41164597
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